Anyways, I am a 16 year old in highschool. Virgin, fair amount of female interest and really only started to act on it this summer.
I met this girl (we'll call her HB7) through a friend. We hung out, (me, friend, and her) once, got her number but nothing happened. I see her at a party (this is about 2 months later) and we talk and she wants to hang out soon. So I forget about her until my friend reminds me (this is about a month after the party) I text her and we make plans to meet up.
I pick her up and we head to a local park where we walk around. We sit down close to each other and talk about school, people we know, etc. She notices my upper thigh tan-line and touches, it commenting on it. I point out and touch and tease her about hers.
We're talking about cool shizzle, I'm teasing her caller her a hipster while she denies it; everytime she does something hipsterish I till her "I'm adding another tally to your hipster chart". We move around a bit, sit down on a bench. We're really close, and I touch my thigh to her and she doesn't pull away, we're pretty comfortable. I tell her I'm hungry and suggest we head somewhere to eat.
We go to a nice little mom and pop deli to eat. I call my parents and find out that they were going to be coming home late so I'm happy we have a place to go to afterwards. I tell her and she's down, I think she might know at this point what was happening.
We head to my house and I show her around. While showing her the pool I ask if she wants to swim. She says something like I don't have a suit, I say it's fine I swim in my underwear all the time. She agrees and we go down the pool.
She strips down to her bra and underwear and I strip to my boxers (trying to make my slight boner not too obvious) and we get in. We swim around and shizzle for a few minutes, then she sits really close to me on the step. I think about making the move to kiss her but it didn't feel right. We keep swimming and at one point we're both standing on some ledge, I push her off. She then pushes me off to get back at me. shizzle is getting real.
We start playing "tag" or something, just messing around in the water and stuff, and one time she "gets" me and just jumps up to me, wraps her legs around me, and we both lean in and start making out.
We have a convo like this
her: so you're new at this right?
her: I thought you had a girlfriend before
me: yeah but we didn't do anything
she grabs my hair and gives me the sexy eyes and says she'll show me the ropes or something like that.
We make out in the pool for a bit longer then she suggest moving inside and asks to go to my bedroom. We go, dry off, and get on the bed, still in our underwear. We keep making out, her on top of me, me on top of her, switching it up, etc.
At one point she asks lights on or off, I say on but she wants them off so I go for that.
I ask her to show me how taking off a bra works. She shows me, then does it up again and has me do it. At this point things get kinda nsfw, I do have a question regarding the following but if you think it's tmi feel free to stop here.
We're making out and I'm feeling her up and shizzle and I slip my hands down her panties, and holy jesus is she fudgeing wet. It was like a fudgeing slip n slide down there. I start rubbing her clit and we're making out. She takes off her panties, I take off my boxers. We make out and I'm fingering her and she's rubbing my dick. I eventually get on top of her and focus on just fingering her g-spot. She is moaning really loudly and I'm not sure if she came or not but she moaned a lot then stopped. We keep making out, her rubbing my dick, me rubbing her clit but she's not as wet anymore. I ask her if she knows how to give a blowjob, she says she doesn't do that on the first date. I ask her if she makes exceptions, she says something like I have to earn it. I'm not gonna argue while she's rubbing my dick so I just say okay.
Here's where it gets weird. She gets up 2 or 3 times during the hookup to check her phone or something. Anyways, she's rubbing my dick and I tell her I'm about to come. I don't want to get it on my sheets so I run to the bathroom and get some tissues. I get back and she starts putting her clothes on. I ask her "are you done?" she says "no, I'm just wet from the pool so I'm getting dressed."
I lay there naked, waiting for her to finish me off when she checks her phone again, apparently sees something and says "get dressed I have to go". she sounded serious so with the bluest of balls I put my clothes back on and tidy up my dads house and I driver her home. We make very relaxed and nice conversation in the car.
We get to her house, we kiss and I ask when she's in town the rest of the summer. She says she's here all summer and wants to hang again I say for sure, I'm gonna be out of town a bit and she says she'll text me and we'll meet up again.
So I went home, wash the good kitty! off my hands and mouth, say goodnight to my mom, eat some cottage cheese (dat casein gainz) and type this up.
wtf is up with the not finishing me off and blue balls shizzle? It really sucked. I'm thinking if she has a rule like not blowing guys on the first date maybe she doesn't want to make the come on the first date? That's retarded though.
So I K closed tonight after some solid pool game. I used a lot of push pull tactics to achieve this. I would go in close to her face to face talk about something personal while maintaining strong eye contact as she had her upper body on this raft thing then depart do something at the opposite side of the pool. Repeat. I walked her to her car and noticed she took way to long to unlock the door. She then placed her bag and stuff on the drivers seat and turned around for a hug. At this point I knew she wanted me to make a move. I also knew this wouldn't have been a short hug goodbye because if it was a quick hug she would have put her stuff in the passenger seat hugged and then hopped back in. I closed the door with my foot while we are hugging. We hugged for a while and I told her " Even after all the chlorine you still smell amazing." Made strong eye contact and went for the kiss. Solid game this girl is rather shy and restrained.
I had my interview for a summer analyst position at a local bank yesterday. Here are some of the questions they asked me
"What line on your resume is the most bs?"
"What do you think of this room?"
"What's your outlook on U.S. cucumber prices in 2013?"
"Tell me about your Saturday nights."
"If I told you that the only way you could get this job were for me to sleep with your girlfriend, would you accept?"
"What single word would you use to describe yourself so I don't walk out of here and forget you?"
The freshman chick from two blog posts ago sat with me at lunch today (idk why, it was a mainly 11th grade table) and gave me her number. Then she texted me about 30 minutes ago saying that I'm invited to her party this weekend.
oooh i know where this is headed
Well, this freshman chick came up to me on Friday while I was going to fill a water bottle and she says, "Hey, do you like my friend?"
(P.S.: My friends and I tend to drool all over her ass and make jokes about it when she's right next to us)
I say, "Who, the girl over there?"
"Yeah, her," the friend replied.
"Eeh, she's cute." This was said with total disinterest.
"Would you like to make out with her?" I was asked.
"If she's into that," I replied. I was caught completely off-guard.
The friend said, "Ooh, great then!" and was running towards her HB7/10 friend. I went on to mind my own business.
Well, I didn't really realize what was happening till after it happened. I was kinda on auto-pilot. From now on I just intend on doing absolutely nothing until the girls comes looking for me. I intend on doing nothing because I don't want to look desperate. Plus, if I go, "Hey, girl come over here," I don't see it working.
What's your opinion?
You see that HB9 over there. Looking hot as ever with all of her other popular friends. You get scared and think, "she's out of my league." So you don't approach and just get pissed at yourself for being such a loser.
THERE ARE NO LEAGUES. No one is "out of your league". Everyone knows that one HB10 who is dating some random not really attractive dude. But guess what he has. CONFIDENCE. That's all you need. As long as you're not a total fudgeing weirdo you will do fine. So here's a goal for tomorrow (or whenever your next school day is), go talk to that super hot popular girl who you wouldn't imagine in your wildest dreams. You'll be surprised.
This was a bit ambiguous to me, that is, when I first heard I needed to be dominant. But now, I am really starting to understand. A quick elucidation by example. I open and chat up a girl for a few minutes, she says she has to get going and starts to walk off, to which I reply "Whoa whoa" while grabbing her arm and pulling her back in as she turns around to walk away, "this isn't over yet". I've noticed any sort of dominant kino like this really ramps up the attraction fast.
Another similar example. You are speaking to a girl at a party and find her difficult to hear. Instead of you leaning in to her, you grab her arm and pull her in close to you, so your faces are nearly in contact.
I think a crucial aspect to being more dominant is making more commands. For example, now, when I see a girl I think is cute and have spoken to before, I don't walk up and address her instantly with a "Hey, how's it goin?!" or anything like that. I look at her with a smile, stand/sit still, and say something like "Megan. Come here. Talk to me" or "Shawna. Get over here" with a very firm, solid tone and pull her in for a hug or something like that.
tl;dr Be a man, not a chode.
Freshman- young, naive, unable to convey emotions
Sophomore- reckless, willing to try new things
Junior- eager for sex, generally the loose girls on campus especially if she went for it as a sophmore, looking for attention (generally true with all girls)
Senior- baggage ontop of baggage, these girls are either loose, trying to get out of there, not looking for anything serious, not a lot of drama, more likely to say what they feel.
When you find out that the people you used to think were cool a year or two ago are actually the biggest circle-jerking keyboard warriors on the internet. Granted, some of those guys are alright, but some of them are also just pathetic.
A year away from that shizzle and going outside and meeting new people really puts things into perspective.