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Jailbait

Hunter

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I'm 16. And a half.

 

I'm pretty much over this chick who dumped me. I disgust myself having seen how emotionally unstable she made me. But that doesn't put me off trying again.

 

I meet most people through cadets nowadays. Occasionally one or two through college or work, but the majority of people I meet and get to know is through cadets.

 

Last weekend a competition ran, for swimming. I placed 1st in all of my races (Butterfly, Freestyle and Individual Medley, all 15-18 boys'... I won the medley by a length, and its a total of 4 long. Anyway offtopic, I love swimming). As is usual I met up with loads of people I'd seen before from across the county, a few from Plymouth, Exmouth, various north devon towns... And again met new people. Two of them rather sweet girls.

 

Yeah, from the title, you've guessed it at this stage. They're both 13. Both fairly mature, both sweet as anything, both I've met before but only briefly... But they're 13.

 

I like these girls a lot. Well, I'd like to ask one out.

 

But they're 13.

 

;-; what do.

 

For clarification, one is a 2 year 4 month gap, the other about a month longer.

 

Is it socially acceptable? Thoughts? Could/would it work?



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Eh I'd say no. Although humans are developing much earlier these days and women tend to be more mature than guys, it could probably work but it's not worth the hassle and seems like nothing more than a rebound relationship.

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Yeah, nope. They're only slightly more than two thirds your age and you yourself are still jailbait. This will really not work out at all, I'd guess.

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Divide your age by 2 and add 7. 16/2+7=15 minimum age.

That won't work for Hugh Hefner.

 

On topic, um no unless you really want to be 1st choice for the police to visit & on all the maps wherever you live for the rest of your life as a sex offender.

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You'd probably be happier dating someone closer to age. They may seem mature at first glance (most people do), but you may have a hard time relating to them once you get to know them.

 

There's a whole lot of emotional development that goes on between (in the US) middle school and high school (correlates to those age ranges). Just think about how much you've changed since you were 13 (check your Sal's posts :cute:)

 

I'd explore other options. Sounds like a rebound situation that'll end nasty for everyone involved. It's a pretty good indication that it's a bad idea that you're asking these questions.

 

Sal's posts didn't reflect my maturity in person :P but I take the point - I've told myself that I won't be pushing for anything, I mean, by most standards I don't know either of them THAT well.

 

I ask the questions only as recognition of the age gap. I don't really see much wrong with it, in itself, but still :s It's not a rebound situation - that happened quite soon after I was broken up with. I'm to the stage I was when I was single before for a year or so.

 

Eh I'd say no. Although humans are developing much earlier these days and women tend to be more mature than guys, it could probably work but it's not worth the hassle and seems like nothing more than a rebound relationship.

 

Eh I'm not worried about physical development. I'm not looking for a physical relationship, I never have really.

 

were you dating a like 20 year old at one point

 

Well, I was 14, she was 16. So almost the same. Just, I think, a few months smaller gap. It went okay, considering we met up like twice and then realised living a 4 hour train journey away from each other wouldn't work very well.

 

Yeah, nope. They're only slightly more than two thirds your age and you yourself are still jailbait. This will really not work out at all, I'd guess.

 

They're slightly more than 3/4 of my age, which is more than 2/3. Noob.

 

Eh, I've seen it work. One of the guys I'm really close friends with has been going out with a lass for two years or so - he's 16, she's 14 (exactly 2 years age difference, same birthday).

 

 

I sorta want to know if anyone else has gone through this kind of thing before? The immediate thought is that, for a few months once/if I enlist, I will be dating a 15 year old. Which doesn't SOUND great :s But, that will likely only be a few months.

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The immediate thought is that, for a few months once/if I enlist, I will be dating a 15 year old. Which doesn't SOUND great But, that will likely only be a few months.

It isn't great. If you were 23 and she was 20, I wouldn't see an issue, but this age difference is huge. I'm not entirely sure why it's so bloody important to be in a relationship at age 16. I'm biased as somebody who has never dated, but why date somebody so young when it's ultimately not going to result in anything? But that's just my perspective partly as a Christian (ie. I think relationships should be made with the intention being that they'll be forever (though if they're not that's fine (though less so if you're married)))

Either way a 16 year old dating a 13 year old is just not okay, I think. What would you think if you saw an 18 year old guy walking around with a 15 year old girl?

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Well, I was 14, she was 16. So almost the same. Just, I think, a few months smaller gap. It went okay, considering we met up like twice and then realised living a 4 hour train journey away from each other wouldn't work very well.

Wasn't there much more to that story.

 

Well, it was never a serious relationship if I'm honest. Literally after not seeing her for two months and looking on her facebook wall I saw she'd started seeing some bloke that was even older than her. But I'd previously been told by a close friend who'd also had the pleasure of going out with her, that she was bad news from the start. So hey.

 

Hunter, on , said:

 

The immediate thought is that, for a few months once/if I enlist, I will be dating a 15 year old. Which doesn't SOUND great But, that will likely only be a few months.

It isn't great. If you were 23 and she was 20, I wouldn't see an issue, but this age difference is huge. I'm not entirely sure why it's so bloody important to be in a relationship at age 16. I'm biased as somebody who has never dated, but why date somebody so young when it's ultimately not going to result in anything? But that's just my perspective partly as a Christian (ie. I think relationships should be made with the intention being that they'll be forever (though if they're not that's fine (though less so if you're married)))

Either way a 16 year old dating a 13 year old is just not okay, I think. What would you think if you saw an 18 year old guy walking around with a 15 year old girl?

 

It's not "so important", but it's nice. Things are progressing fairly naturally if I'm honest, it's just the possibility is a real one and I'd like to have it summed up before facing it.

 

Why wouldn't it result in anything? I share the very same belief - the function of dating is (besides sex, which I wouldn't really consider "dating"), essentially, a "trial", for someone who could be the person you spend the rest of your life with.

 

And I've seen plenty of the latter mentioned (it's not that common but far from a rarity around here), it doesn't look that bad, unless you see it on paper, in numbers, described.

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I'm not entirely sure why it's so bloody important to be in a relationship at age 16. I'm biased as somebody who has never dated, but why date somebody so young when it's ultimately not going to result in anything?
Most of the things we do result in nothing. The vast majority of us fritter and waste their lives without a point, only to be remembered by a line on a stone, if at all. Nothing bears fruit forever, assuming it bears fruit at all.

 

Nietzsche, somehow, somewhere, is fapping furiously at this post

 

I think relationships should be made with the intention being that they'll be forever
Whereas most people don't have that mindset - it'll last while it last, and if it lasts forever, hey, bonus. Mostly because we're not going to sit around and just wait for "the one" (who, statistically speaking, does not exist). How can I know someone's who I want when I haven't even tried to see what I want?

 

What would you think if you saw an 18 year old guy walking around with a 15 year old girl?
I'd probably see it as an intermediate situation between the "wtf" of 16:13 and "o" of 23:20

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Most of the things we do result in nothing. The vast majority of us fritter and waste their lives without a point, only to be remembered by a line on a stone, if at all. Nothing bears fruit forever, assuming it bears fruit at all.

 

Nietzsche, somehow, somewhere, is fapping furiously at this post

 

No, just me.

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reepicheep, on , said:

 

I'm not entirely sure why it's so bloody important to be in a relationship at age 16. I'm biased as somebody who has never dated, but why date somebody so young when it's ultimately not going to result in anything?

Most of the things we do result in nothing. The vast majority of us fritter and waste their lives without a point, only to be remembered by a line on a stone, if at all. Nothing bears fruit forever, assuming it bears fruit at all.

 

Nietzsche, somehow, somewhere, is fapping furiously at this post

 

reepicheep, on , said:

 

I think relationships should be made with the intention being that they'll be forever

Whereas most people don't have that mindset - it'll last while it last, and if it lasts forever, hey, bonus. Mostly because we're not going to sit around and just wait for "the one" (who, statistically speaking, does not exist). How can I know someone's who I want when I haven't even tried to see what I want?

 

reepicheep, on , said:

 

What would you think if you saw an 18 year old guy walking around with a 15 year old girl?

I'd probably see it as an intermediate situation between the "wtf" of 16:13 and "o" of 23:20

1: I meant that more from my perspective, that is that relationships should be made to last. I remember reading somewhere that a study showed that relationships that start at an early age like that usually end. I'll be honest, not great evidence but then again I think it makes some sense. Besides, nothing's pointless if you believe in the afterlife :P

2: Here I meant more that starting a relationship that is likely to end because you're simply too young is pointless. I have no illusions about finding the right person in one go (my parents did <_<). Also I'm a bit cynical maybe :box:

3: It's not as bad, sure.

 

I'll be honest, it very much seems like you've made up your mind, and you're just looking for confirmation. Not judging, just that's what it sounds like.

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Well, made up my mind is wrong, but I'm not going to say no at this stage. Confirmation was sort of what I was going for, but I didn't word that clearly.

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You are a young adult, they are children.

 

Also I like how you are asking about both girls, not that you like someone in particular who just happens to be younger than you. but just two of them, either, whichever will have you? Sounds special.

 

Also, anyone here a fan of BrassEye?

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You are a young adult, they are children.

 

Also I like how you are asking about both girls, not that you like someone in particular who just happens to be younger than you. but just two of them, either, whichever will have you? Sounds special.

 

Also, anyone here a fan of BrassEye?

 

It seems you have read rather more into it than was there :|

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Reading more into it than is there? As in the dating children sense or the you don't really care which one sense?

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Reading more into it than is there? As in the dating children sense or the you don't really care which one sense?

 

The latter.

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Tabt, on , said:

 

Reading more into it than is there? As in the dating children sense or the you don't really care which one sense?

 

The latter.

 

I don't understand, you mention both girls, give details on both, yet mention no preference for either. It doesn't sound like you actually like either girl, you just want a girl.

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Hunter, on , said:

 

Tabt, on , said:

 

Reading more into it than is there? As in the dating children sense or the you don't really care which one sense?

 

The latter.

 

I don't understand, you mention both girls, give details on both, yet mention no preference for either. It doesn't sound like you actually like either girl, you just want a girl.

 

You're more than correct thinking that, because that's what I seem to have written.

 

In actual fact it isn't the case, it's just lazy me not writing what I mean :P

 

It's also no-sleep-for-days me deciding it's probably a good idea to ask about this on a forum, online ;-; but with that in mind, thank you everyone.

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didnt you say you and that 20 year old girl were like getting married

 

and you met twice

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No problem with dating at 16 lol. I'm still dating the girl I was at 16, it's been four years. It can work.

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