Luftey Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 A little while ago I met this nice Russian girl while waiting for my physics lecture. She's quite cute and we've become fairly good friends, Ive been thinking if asking her out but there's one issue. I was talking to her last night and had asked how long she lived in Russia and she said 5 years And she just turned 23 so she's been here in the US for 18yrs now. I'm only 20 and a half. (She doesn't know my age) is that to much of an age gap? (She just started her first year of college I'm in my second). Quote
Star Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 (edited) Tbh if you were 14 and she was 20 I would've said yes.. But all by all 20 to 23 is a nice (nearly not noticeable imo) gap.. as in not all relationships have to be people of the same age. L2beplayerLuft! :D Edited February 16, 2012 by Star Quote
_Zj Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 3 years isn't bad once you're college-aged. Inb4 "age is just a number" Quote
Joyful Lemon Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 At those ages that gap is fine :) Quote
Sage Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 What lilshu said, after high school, age becomes much less of an issue, at least when the gap is under 5 or 6 years, in my opinion. Quote
Sk8skull Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 Nawh dude that's totally acceptable, good luck :) Quote
Kyo Posted February 16, 2012 Posted February 16, 2012 at least its not like this 16 yr old going out with some guy whos like 21 true story Quote
Fatalysm Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 It sounds as if you are intimidated by the fact she is mature rather than by her age. Either way, her age really shouldn't make a difference to you. Quote
Doddsy Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 20 to 23 is no real age gap at your age. There may be a difference in maturity but that is for you to deal with, rather than a biological age gap. I've hooked up for women 6 or 7 years older than me, and the only problem occurs when you are in mentally different states. So, as lilshu said, stop worrying about it and hop on it Quote
Merch Gwyar Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 ... hop on it... such a turn of phrase. But yes, I agree with the others. 20 to 23 isn't bad at all. You're both adults and, as you get older, those 3 years will disappear. The age gap is only bigger when you're kids or teenagers. Quote
Common Sense Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 I agree with everyone here with one caveat: in many cases, 20 to 23 is pretty noticeable because you're in different stages of your lives. A 20 year old is just a sophomore, still dependent on his parents, and has never left the cocoon of academia. A 23 year old has graduated, entered the real world, and is likely working full time. People mature quite a bit in their early 20s. Quote
Bob-sama Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 Her lower limit: (23/2)+7=18.5 Your upper limit: (20-7)*2=26 You're fine. The question is if she's actually interested or just being nice. Quote
Traviesa Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 Will she be around in six months? My concern here is that you say you live in the United States, and technically you aren't old enough to drink there, whereas she can, and this could be awkward. Maybe you don't drink anyway, and don't plan on going to bars with her. Maybe you have a professionally manufactured fake ID. Just waiting until you are 21 might be helpful. Aside from that, if you feel emotionally ready to get into a relationship with her, full speed ahead. Good luck. We'll be here for you if she rejects you or when you break up. Quote
20000_Posts Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 Will she be around in six months? My concern here is that you say you live in the United States, and technically you aren't old enough to drink there, whereas she can, and this could be awkward. Maybe you don't drink anyway, and don't plan on going to bars with her. Maybe you have a professionally manufactured fake ID. Just waiting until you are 21 might be helpful. Aside from that, if you feel emotionally ready to get into a relationship with her, full speed ahead. Good luck. We'll be here for you if she rejects you or when you break up. It's not hard to drink in college, even if you're under 21. Quote
Luftey Posted February 17, 2012 Author Posted February 17, 2012 Her lower limit: (23/2)+7=18.5 Your upper limit: (20-7)*2=26 You're fine. The question is if she's actually interested or just being nice. Only way to find out is to ask! Will she be around in six months? My concern here is that you say you live in the United States, and technically you aren't old enough to drink there, whereas she can, and this could be awkward. Maybe you don't drink anyway, and don't plan on going to bars with her. Maybe you have a professionally manufactured fake ID. Just waiting until you are 21 might be helpful. Aside from that, if you feel emotionally ready to get into a relationship with her, full speed ahead. Good luck. We'll be here for you if she rejects you or when you break up. Will she be around in six months? My concern here is that you say you live in the United States, and technically you aren't old enough to drink there, whereas she can, and this could be awkward. Maybe you don't drink anyway, and don't plan on going to bars with her. Maybe you have a professionally manufactured fake ID. Just waiting until you are 21 might be helpful. Aside from that, if you feel emotionally ready to get into a relationship with her, full speed ahead. Good luck. We'll be here for you if she rejects you or when you break up. It's not hard to drink in college, even if you're under 21. Yup, no one reall follows the legal age thing here ;p But yup, thanks for the good luck wishes :D Quote
Tri Poc Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 no such thing as to old if your a guy ;) Quote
_Zj Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 no such thing as to old if your a guy She's waiting for you. Quote
Dhampy Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I was 14 years old and I dated a 23 year old woman when I was in Japan going to school. Good thing I was tall and had a deep voice. Age dont matter man. And hey look at the brightside, she can buy for you! Quote
Clavius Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 As long as the person in question and yourself are between 18-26ish and both of you are in college, I'd say anything is okay. Quote
heb0 Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 (edited) In Soviet Russia, she too young for you! Edited February 18, 2012 by heb0 Quote
O hai im KAMIL Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I agree with everyone here with one caveat: in many cases, 20 to 23 is pretty noticeable because you're in different stages of your lives. A 20 year old is just a sophomore, still dependent on his parents, and has never left the cocoon of academia. A 23 year old has graduated, entered the real world, and is likely working full time. People mature quite a bit in their early 20s. In his post he said the chick has only started her first year of College whilst OP is in his second year. Quote
William Howard Taft Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 3 years isn't bad once you're college-aged. Inb4 "age is just a number" Once you graduate from college three years is jes fine. Quote
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